Cut yourself some slack

Life isn't easy, that much I know. If you are in a recovery process the goal is often in sight. You see the goal and you want to reach it so badly. You often make the assumption that once you've made on step, you can only go forward. Sometimes we are impatent, trying to go forward too quickly. 

Setbacks might and will occur. One might forget about the goal you sat or don't believe that you will make it. Therefore you need to remind yourself about the bumps, which aren't where you end up. I have a tendency to give up if something goes against me. The anxiety and panic attacks act like a devil sitting on your shoulder, telling you lies about life, that this is how it's supposed to be. How strange it may sound, embracing the illness is a common occurance for my part. It feels safe and comforting, a sensation you know and if you dare to challenge it, it'll only become stronger.

Earlier today I read about a boss in a company who came up with the idea of a "pyjamas day". The employees only needed to send a text saying "pyjamas day" to their boss if they felt the need to take a day off. No specification of why was needed. I think we should do the same with ourselves. We are our own bosses, after all. Allow yourself to take an extra breath of air and relax. It's not the end of the world if it is difficult to start doing chores one day. Blaming yourself is the last thing you should do. Let's face it, will it get any easier the next time if you blame yourself? Now it would be a good time to use your fanclub.  Imagine what they would say if they were with you, or better yet contact them. Asking for a minute or two when feeling down is perfectly legal.

Please remember that ""[y]ou are enough. You are so enough, it's unbelievable how enough you are. "