I've previously touched the subject of having goals in your life, something to look forward to. I happened to fullfill my goal on Saturday evening when I got to see the band Ghost and it shouldn't be necessary to say that I had a jolly good time. Watching a live performance together with people you don't know gives a feeling of a community and togetherness. One should think that you'd feel sad when the happening is over. Planning ahead and setting new goals further ahead prevents that and makes it easier, for me at least, to appreciate each goal or event as they happen.
There shouldn't be the need of a concert or other big things to cheer you up. Small things matter just as much in the daily life. It's just that when you're depressed you fail to see the small things. Wether it is a nice day, new sheets on the bed or singing birds doesn't matter. Same thing applies to socializing with other people. Seeing other people while beeing outside tells me that you are alive and that's good, right? Being smiled at or small talk with strangers can also brighten up the day. You just need to let it have a try.
Also, people who don't know what depression is like might not see how small things matter. The deeper the depression is or the more one isolates oneself, the smaller the action needs to be in order to make a change. Just like a smile, beeing greeted and invited to social gatherings. I can tell you first hand how sad it is when you find out friends have been doing something and they forgot to invite you due to misunderstandings. People often think that they should let you be alone when you're distansing yourself from the group. Actually, it's completely the opposite. Don't be afraid to do or say something wrong to a friend that struggles. However little you think you're doing, it's endlessly more than nothing.
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