Daring to win, should you?

People motivate eachother in many different ways, mostly when a project is coming to fruition or a specific goal is set. "Dare to win" they say. This expression is in my ears completely wrong. It's not scary to reach your goal. I'd say "dare to fail"! I'm not saying you shouldn't be happy when or if you accomplish what you've set yourself as a goal. But the journey can be long no matter how complicated things are, you might end up in a completely different place than expected or just the journey turns into a rollercoaster of a ride.

What if you don't reach your goal at all? Sounds a bit scary, I'll be the first to admit it. This is part of reality, part of being alive. Success isn't carved in stone. Depressed people often don't have the confidence to believe that it'll work out right yet they try and try. Exposing yourself to new impulses and coming out from the safe surroundings takes courage. I know how extremely difficult this is when you're facing your fears. I've had quite the level of anxiety just knowing I needed to go shopping. Every single plausible outcome is spinning around in your head, no matter how irrational it might be. I didn't know if I'd get to the store, let alone get outside. Exposing myself to a potential failure, and knowing that I did, made me uncomfortable. Compare it to gambling. You have to be prepared to lose in order to win. In real life you lose even if you don't gamble as it becomes harder each time if you give in to the anxiety without trying. 

Let's say you've gone outside and feel the anxiety grasping onto you. I'd say there is no shame in going back home. You tried and made yourself vulnerable, and that shows bravery. What I learned, or been told at least, is to feel how the anxiety feels on different parts on your body. When you learn to describe how it feels and get used to the anxiety, it'll be less scary each time. I'm not saying it will be pleasant but in time you learn how to cope with it. Lastly, pat yourself for every accomplishment you make. And dare to fail!