It's nice to be prepare yourself before doing anything, right? Preparing means to be one step ahead and have a practical solution to what might go wrong. Social anxiety isn't like that. It is always looking for anything that might trigger a panick attack. But does it help you find a solution or rationalize it? Nope, you're on your own there.
It is the same song and dance everytime I need to go outside, like grocery shopping where I don't have an appointment of some sort. I don't need to rush as the store is open untill 11 pm. That's what my anxiety is telling me, trying to rationalize me avoiding the stress of going outside. A mental battle like this can go on for an hour or two. But why?
What is the worst outcome that could happen, here or in any other case? You might hurt yourself? Meeting people you don't want to meet? Forgot money? For most, I dare to say all eventual outcomes there is at least one way to fix it, so relax. You can't be prepared for any possible outcome, anyway. Deduct the scenarios that are unlikely to happen and you're left with those you have the tools to fix. It is also what happens inside of you. Instantaneously the anxiety sets in, usually using similar happenings in the past as the truth. Maybe you were told as a kid that proper people should know how to behave and act, and you suddenly say to yourself that you're worthless etc. Which of course isn't true. So for me, at least, the social anxiety is just as much a fear of ending up in a sitation that initiates the anxiety, as it is to go outside.
"Can you fix the problem? If yes, fix it and don't worry. If not, forget about it and don't worry."
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